- Object Relations in Psychoanalytic Theory (1983), with Jay Greenberg
- Relational Concepts in Psychoanalysis: An Integration (1988)
- Hope and Dread in Psychoanalysis (1993)
- Freud and Beyond: A History of psychoanalytic thought (1996), with Margaret Black
- Influence and Autonomy in Psychoanalysis (1997)
- Relationality: From Attachment to Intersubjectivity (2000)
- Can Love Last? The Fate of Romance over Time (2001)