https://www.amazon.com/Vitalization-Psychoanalysis-Relational-Perspectives-Book/dp/0367687895/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=vitalization+in+psychoanalysis+perspectives+on+being+and+becoming&qid=1616738929&sprefix=vitaliza&sr=8-1#immersive-view_1616738970712 (Google play 2021-3-26)
Now, the problem is, I'm not sure if I am alive.
i.e. offer yourself, to the patient